Just a thought from a wife who was toxic to the max (hyper) and had a small baby. You know, at some point, we (and I, at that time) need to be accountable to ourselves, our husband and our children. Yes, there is a time we are kinda crazy. But we really know it. We want to be “fixed,” cured and get back to our normal lives.
There is a possibility that, no matter how wonderful your marriage was, it may be irretrievable. I have no idea. At some point, the “disease” can be an excuse.
There are some people who have enjoyed their hyper state, and want to stay that way. Is your wife one of them? I have no idea. But, speaking from her place, there a point in all of this where she should be working with you, not against you not getting an apartment on her own, and not seeing another man. That is simply not a way for you to live your life. You deserve more.
If it ends up that you end up back together and it is working, then all that I said above, does not apply. But if this goes on forever, I encourage you to think of yourself, the rest of your life, and your kids.
Hard to hear (or read) maybe. But put in the hopper with all the other options you have. And YOU have them.
Shirley, former Graves' wife, who wanted to get better more than anything else in the world, and hated the hyper crazy state I was in.
TED 2008-present. OD for pressure on optic nerve 02/02/10
Eye muscle surgery 09/23/10 Upper eyelid surgery 02/01/11
Lower eyelids with grafts from palate, 10/5, 10/25/11
Graves dx/thyroidectomy 1959-Synthroid from 1980